Thursday 10 July 2014

The 2014 year so far ...life and death

Hello bloggers and Happy New Year. I know its July but its my first blog of the year. My life in some ways has not been my own this year. A relative was diagnosed with cancer at Christmas which was followed by a terminal diagnosis in new year. The first part of the year was spent in various hospitals with docters appointments, tests, biopsies, scans and finally hospital admission. Then they passed away and we had the usual arrangements to make as we were next of kin. A few surprises along the way sorting the finances out as they hadn't been entirely honest with us , so along with bereavement,  a lot of stress trying to sort everything out and dealing with creditors and various people involved in the process. We are hoping now that there are no more surprises , time will tell. Shortly after the bereavement we found out that I was expecting . We were both delighted and I found out at 7 weeks. I am quite old fashioned and don't believe in announcing until the 12 weeks have passed so other than my husband, mother and my work superior , no one else knew. So we were going along happily until just about a week before my 12 week scan when I began to spot. Nothing to much to begin with but over a course of two days it got worse and I miscarried. That was four weeks ago and was very hard to deal with. I am still dealing with it and no doubt always will. So I hope the rest of the year will be calm so that we can get our heads together and go forwards.

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  1. My heart aches for you, because I know just how you feel.
    You will never forget but it does become easier to deal with.
    I hope you find some peace and joy in the coming months, and if you want to email, I'm hear to listen.
    Be kind to yourselves. xx

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  2. I'm so very sorry to read this. sending you lots of love. xxx

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    1. Thanks Vix. With everything going on I missed the vintage fayres so hopefully will see you at one soon x

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  3. So sorry to read this news- I had missed your posts, and wondered what was up. There are no easy answers - but may you find some peace as the weeks go on, and feel loved and supported by those around you xxx

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    1. Thank you Angela. Its getting a little easier as the weeks go on but still hard going. x

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  4. You have had a really tough year - take care of yourself and I do hope that the rest of the year is better for you - Hugs from me xxx

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  5. Oh you poor thing, what a time you've had. I often wondered about you as I had missed your blog and you used to make me smile. Sometimes in life you have a horrible year when all sorts of things go wrong. Mine was 1985 and 2003. It will get better and you will feel better i promise. X

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  6. Im so sorry to read what an awful year you ve had. I missed your posts too. I hope the rest of the year will be calm . I ll be thinking of you. I lost my first baby too at 6 months so know exactly what you ve been through. I m here also if you ever need a shoulder. I found S.A.N.D.s an amazing help to get through this terrible loss. Love julie xxx

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  7. So sorry to hear about your loss , you really have had a bad time i just hope it is all behind you now and your future is good xxx

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  8. What a tough year. I hope things are getting better for you now, time does make it more bearable, but it's tough, so tough at the time.

    Hugs.

    Oh and if you're passing ours when you're in Wales next month, we're always open for a coffee :-)

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    1. Thanks Sue x That's why we are off to Llandudno soon bit off R&R :-)

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